Wedding after being married for three years?
We got married at the civil registrar in Malaysia three years ago. We kind of regretted that we never have a proper wedding nor taken any wedding photos.
Though we have thought of taking some wedding photos and send out wedding announcements when we first got married. But I was too busy with the business to organize it and the big boy was procrastinating it, as usual.:-) Maybe we should have the wedding once we move back to IL? Is it hard and time consuming to organize a wedding ? Even if we do decide to have one, we definitely are not planning to have a big event, just a private church wedding, maybe.
Filed under relationship | Comment (0)Communication with sleepy head
Hubby called and we talked on the phone today. I hate to talk to him when he is yawning, but he likes to call me at the end of the day when he is tired and almost ready to go to bed. I get frustrated easily talking to him when he is not totally alert or awake. He won’t remember the next day what we talk and therefore no follow up actions, the frustration just compounds everyday.
If communication is deem so important in a marriage relationship, I just don’t see him putting it as a priority. I gave up ever try to communicate to a sleepy head.
Filed under hubby, relationship | Comment (0)The clueless
Do you ever find yourself making excuses for your husband’s seeming lack of sensitivity?
The “clueless husband” has become almost like the mythical fairy tale character, but instead of marrying the Prince Charming, we’ve got his younger brother, Prince Oblivious. Do we come to accept Prince Oblivious’ actions as normal and typical behavior?
May be we joke about the “clueless” man as a way to cope, even though in truth, this seeming lack of emotional sensitivity frustrates us.
But is the clueless husband really the norm?
According to this article in the online Psychology Today, a new study shows that men are slow at being supportive not because they are incapable, but because they just do it at the wrong time. The article quote the researcher says maybe some men wait until they are certain their wives are really upset. Mine certainly, does yours? :-)
Full article on The myth of clueless husband.
Filed under hubby, relationship | Comment (0)Hurting inside
I felt so hurt inside, everything I write will be emotional, do people really want to know the real me, the weak and teary me. Haven’t been able to write anything on the other blog that people actually read. In the past few days, in fact past few weeks, I just concentrated on writing paid posts after paid posts, my heart may be hurt, with a hurt wallet, it will hurt more, won’t it?
Why it’s so frustrating, how long is this going to continue? There is just no light at the end of the tunnel. Maybe it’s the time of the month that I get extremely melancholic and emotional. I felt like the whole world is collapsing on me. How long more I have to suffer for my foolish life decisions? How much more I have to carry the burden? Why is God allowing me to go through all this? Why does he has to crush me like this? Oh, god, it’s too much to bear on my own, can you carry for me?
Filed under relationship | Comment (0)What are we really communicating?
It sucks when arguing is the only time you get to share feelings. It’s not communication when the two most important skills i.e. talking and listening are missing in a relationship. There may always be tensions and disagreements, but staying clueless is not helping.
Couples often use topics such as money, sex or housework to fight for their deeper needs within a relationship. For example, an argument over money may really be about where the responsibility lies. Rows about housework are often about unfilled needs for respect and worth. And arguing is nearly always about feeling unloved and uncared for and deeper needs for connection and affection. I believe beneath the surface of an argument often lurks a much deeper issue, desperate to be let out and looked at - and you’ll keep on arguing until you do.
Filed under relationship | Comment (0)Liars, liars
What would you do if someone told you he has to lie because you put him in a spot that he just had to lie to save his life ?
Whether it’s half truth, half lie or straight lies, they are all rooted from the same character flaw and inability to deal with reality. Am I to accept blame for someone else’s lack of character? No way.
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